#idk if youve ever watched umbrella academy

[regardingjenmish]

Hey, so what I was going to ask was how do you deal with the negativity and the hate that goes on here? I've been trying to avoid it as much as I can but when I look at the people I've blocked it's way more than people I currently follow. It's not just because I want my dash to have positive vibes or people I agree with. I am completely fine with people with different perspective and viewpoints. But it almost always comes draped in excessive amount of hate for someone. Even the Jared hate I'm uncomfortable with. It's one thing to dislike someone and not talk about them (which thankfully most of my favourites do) but keeping to talk shit about them unwarranted is a little excessive in my opinion. I think Tumblr is quite toxic and sadly now I'm a part of a toxic fandom and it really messes with me sometimes. There's a lot of good content but every once in a while it becomes a freaking mess. It's bad enough to have drama in your actual life, but seeking it out on social media is kind of stupid. Either people who have such hateful things to say have really fantastic lives or they just like being combative and negative for no reason. And it's really exhausting to weed them out. How do I cope?

Infact I never post about stuff that I want just because I am afraid I'll end up offending someone or the other and would invite someone's ire.

Hi anon, I'm sorry for such a late reply but I was busy today and I didn't want to give you some half-ass response. Also I apologize in advance for the long response. I feel like avoiding negativity is very hard because one way or the other it's going to be there. But after some time you become a bit better at ignoring it or at least not paying attention. It kind of becomes like white noise (like a turned on tv in a room while you're actually doing something else and you almost forget it's even there)

I used to get affected by hate and negativity so much, it was actually insane. Like you said, when shit is happening in your personal life it makes it even worse when there's constant hate happening somewhere you go to to escape. It was actually a big reason why I took a step back from this fandom a few years back and just watched the show by myself quietly. There was always some type of drama about anything and everything. But then after a while I came to realization that no matter what I do (block people, leave the fandom...) negativity will always be there. And also i really started to hate the fact that I was censoring myself and not allowing myself to enjoy something out of fear that someone will have a problem with me. Basically i realized that the only way I can actually enjoy myself/this damn show or just the ship in general, is if I force myself to ignore it (which is easier said than done, i know). Shit was hard, I'm not gonna lie. Every vague shady post had me thinking it was about me. But after some time I just stopped giving a fuck. If someone has a problem with me having fun on a website talking about a damn show/ship/actors then that's more their problem than mine. As you said yourself, someone that has time to spread hate 24/7 clearly likes being negative for no reason. It's a sad life to have and I don't want that shit, so I just ignore it and vibe in the corner. Eventually you will see that most of the people on here, don't have the time or energy for constant hate and you will end up finding people that also just wanna post about the show/actors/whatever it is, without any drama.

You're allowed to enjoy yourself/this damn show or whatever you want. And you really shouldn't give random strangers who clearly have nothing better to do with their lives, the power of taking that from you. Especially during times like right now where everything in the world is a shit show. You are allowed to have fun and talk about stuff online that bring you joy and make you happy and it kind of breaks my heart you stop yourself from doing that because of some gross people in the fandom.

I don't know if this was any help at all but hun, i really hope you just say fuck it and post about whatever the hell you want. And if at any point someone comes at you, just block them and delete the message. Life is way too short to care about every single morons opinion on stuff you enjoy.